2000 Nemoi Char Gecolecktor

Nemoi’s mom moved away when he was 18 and just kind of left him with a small single wide trailer until the day of his marriage, when he became his own man with his own family - my wonderful wife and daughter treated him as their own. Geographical distance and time has spearated us greatly. There are times when he intimates that we should come see him or call him more. I feel bad when those conversations happen because it would be neat to talk more and to see everyone. However, it is not natural to me or most men to stay on the phone catching up with our old pals who have moved far away. Sometimes it is good enough to know that you have those old pals and that you can just pick up, have fun and catch up in those lucky moments that you see each other.

There are three things that I have learned from Nemoi that stick out and are illustrations of life lessons to me.

First, network marketing ruins family relationships and friendships. Nemoi got involved with the largest of all those efforts and people began to dread hearing from him. Calls once based on "catching up" now had a catch. Even showing up to the annual friendly Turkey Bowl football game became a time for him to try to sell me a case of power drinks. Network marketing turns friends into "potential sales" and even worse, causes people to try to "hook" their friends into the network. Network marketing (multi-level sales groups) stinks.

Second, teachers often teach most against what they struggle with most. When teachers get on a role about a certain morality or topic and just teach on it again and again and again - it might be a hot topic with them for a reason. Nemoi went through a period teaching young people something that he did not follow. It was painful to watch but more painful because I realized that at times, I had done the same. Watching it from the outside brought a realization of past mistakes that won't happen again. Teachers need to be Holy as He is Holy or they need to step down.

Third, true love is a huge factor in making a marriage successful (Nemoi was the first person through whom God taught me this lesson). Of all the couples faced with challenges that I have ever watched get married – Nemoi and his young, beautiful wife were "truly in love" and that has resulted in a most excellent marriage. They are a great fit and therefore very content and happy together. Their children grow up in peace. But who would be surprised with that - everyone knew forever that Nemoi would be a great dad and when we met his future wife - what a future mom!